In this guide, we will talk about Post-wedding Marwari Wedding Rituals. We presume you had already read our Pre-wedding Marwari marriage rituals that has an elaborate list of the ceremony.
Bahu Agaman or Grihapravesh
An important ceremony, it marks the entry of the bride at her husband’s place which she will call “home”.
There are various customs to be followed in this function.
Before allowing the groom to enter his home with his newlywed wife, his sisters and bhabhi guard the entrance. They tell him that they would only let him enter with his wife if he promises to give them with gifts and cash. The bargaining starts and continues for some time. After a while, the groom yields and is allowed to enter with his bride.
The sister or paternal aunt of the groom does ‘Aarti’ and applies Tilak to the bride’s forehead. The bride takes five steps and overturns a pot filled with rice and coins using her right feet. This symbolizes fertility and prosperity in the family. She is asked to dip her feet in a Thaali (plate) of red dye and asked to walk on a white cloth. This white cloth with her footmarks is then kept safely away.
The couple is then led into the Thapa room where six steel Thaalis and a bowl are kept in a row. The groom unsheathes the sword dangling from his waist and moves the plates a little with the pointed end of the sword. The bride bends down and picks up the plates one after another and puts one over the other. To make it interesting, she is asked to be careful not to make any sound while piling up the plates. Finally, she has to hand the pile of plates to her mother-in-law. It is believed that if she makes any noise while piling up the plates, there would be disharmony in the family.
Next, the bride has to touch ghee and jaggery while the groom’s father makes the bride touch a bag of money to bring prosperity in the family. The newlyweds light a candle in the Thapa room after which they are sweets known as ‘mooh-meetha’. The Sehra (headdress) of the groom and the veil of the bride are finally removed.
Devi Devata Pujana
This puja is performed by the newlyweds on the day after the Grihapravesh ceremony. Four bricks are placed outside the gate of the house. They are asked to put a red tikka or ‘roli’ and rice on the bricks and also break a coconut.
After this rite, the couple visit a nearby Hanuman temple to perform a puja to conclude the Devi Devata Pujana.
A coconut, yellow saree with a red border, raw milk, Batasha, sprouts and money is offered to Goddess Ganga. An Aarti and puja are performed to seek the blessings of Goddess Ganga.
Sirguthi, Suhaagthal Chooda Pehenana and Paga-Lagni
In this Sirguthi ceremony, the Bhabhi (sister-in-law) of the groom and his sisters apply makeup on the bride and also comb her hair. The new bride is asked to wear ‘Choodas’ or lac bangles which bear testimony that she is married.
She is now considered ready to formally meet the members, relatives and friends of the groom. She lifts her veil and reveals her face which is called (Mooh-Dikayee). She seeks blessings from the elders of the family by touching their feet. After this rite, the bride leaves for her paternal family home to spend some time with them.
Pag Phera is a function in which the bride returns to her father’s home. Here, the friends and family members come and meet her while asking questions about her experience at her new home, husband and in-laws. Some friends also crack jokes about the night when she would consummate her wedding with her husband.
In the evening, the groom arrives at his in-laws home to bring back his wife. He is greeted with a warm welcome and as the bride leaves her father’s home, she carries a lot of gifts for her in-laws.
On this very night, the bride and the groom sleep together for the first time to consummate their wedding thus completing the entire wedding cycle thus unifying with mind, body and soul from that day onwards.
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